To Expect Or Not To Expect ?

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We all have certain expectations from those around us.  We have expectations of our friends, our families, our partners, our co-workers and we have expectations of ourselves.

When it comes to our friends and potential partners – our expectations could be the root cause of all sorts of heart ache. 

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I’ve always maintained that that I don’t have ‘high expectations’ from my social circle and family.  The basics such as common courtesy, respect, and honesty – that I do expect (I think we all do – and if we don’t there’s an issue here).  All else I don’t hold expectations because I’ve discovered (sometimes the hard way) that it can lead to disappointment.

Perhaps we should all ‘expect’ to be disappointed one day by those around us.  Maybe that will somehow diminish the pain that we feel when we are let down by someone.  Or maybe we just not have any expectations at all ? Or do we just believe to expect the unexpected ?

I suppose in the end it’s about how we manage our expectations.  What are your thoughts on this ? Am I being too cynical ?

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I don't expect anymore... I have understood, that expectations are a brilliant way to under-estimate the possibility of inviting something better!!

Expectations create a mental checklist... that is often left unchecked and therefore every completion feels incomplete!! Every expectation is a conflict based on a checklist... a checklist... that doesn't allow you to acknowledge or even notice anything else!!!
Use the expectations to alert yourself... thank the expectations and set them free... know something better is in the pipeline ;)
http://deealive.blogspot.in/2012/03/awestruck-tou...
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So very true ... I find that the minute I start having 'expectations' - I've set myself up for disappointment because it's never quite exactly how I expected. Nowadays if it happens the way I want - I'm thankful and know that there is much more out there for me :)
expectations are tricky territory, and the stragest thing is we might say it a thousand times that v dnt expect but inside smwhr deep, maybe subconsciously. we always are in that expecting mode. well, to the blind optimist in me, isn;t a bad thing, cz it lets u stay motivated and atleast initiate everytime whether in relationships or on professional level, but yes they also cause mental agony n uninvoted pain, but i believe if thr's no pain thr's no learning. so its good to be at even keel regarding expectations. if u don't, it keeps u peaceful, if u end up expecting, it makes u learn how to find peace!! ;)

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