“Nothing fixes a thing so intensely in the memory as the wish to forget it.” Michel de Montaigne, French Philosopher and Writer. 1533-1592
I actually heard this quote at the end of the latest Criminal Minds episode and it really struck me.
When it comes to relationships be it with your friends, family or your partners – sometimes no matter how hard we try to forget something – a situation, an incident, a milestone, a breaking point – it seems to be as if completely instilled in the mind with no signs of letting go.
My interpretation of the quote is that instead of focusing on the memory that you want to forget, one must just let it go. The only way to truly just let go is to accept that everything happens for a reason and accept the given conditions, circumstances, and go on with your life. There’s no need to wreck your mind or heart over a situation that is beyond your control and is laden with emotional, mental and psychological tangents. Take everything that comes your way as it comes and deal with it then. It’s all part of the universal spectrum and perhaps the ultimate key to happiness ?
Decide how important that relationship is to you and how much you value it in your life – and then you’ll notice that your subsequent actions will naturally weave them in your life (or unweave them).
It’s unlikely that you may share that memory with someone else but unless you give yourself a chance to do that – you won’t know. And by focusing on what you had – focus on the things that you could have. Just because things change between people doesn’t mean that its impossible to achieve again.
Your thoughts ?