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There are some people who reckon that guys would be insecure if a woman pulled out a vibrator during sex (the whole ‘there’s another dick in the room’ theory). But thankfully that’s just an old wives tale because all the guys I know are pretty open to using vibrators as part of foreplay. The first vibrator I ever owned was given to me by my boyfriend of the time a few years ago.
Getting Your First Vibrator
Before you get your first vibrator – you may want to think about how you want to use your new toy. Will you insert it or use it mainly on your clitoris? Do you intend it to be for some solo-action or do you want to use it with your partner ? Do you need a lot of power, or a little buzz to get you over the edge? There are vibrators that buzz, that rotate (highly recommended), that pulse and throb; some are discreet – some are larger than life. Do you want something that plugs in or a battery operated one ? If you can’t choose between internal and external stimulation, go for the combo vibrator and then you have your pick of endless choices.
The important thing here is not to be shy !! You are a sexy person and you want to oomph your sex life (or fill in the gaps whilst your partner is away on business trips). Ask your friends for their recommendations; or spend a Sunday browsing the sex-stores with your partner. He’ll find it pretty hot and it will be quite an erotic experience for both of you. And if going to a real store is too much for you to handle; cosy up with your partner in bed and check out some online stores. Oh, and don’t forget to add some lube to your shopping cart !
Using a Vibrator On Her
The next time you are performing cunnilingus and pleasuring your partner; angle a vibrator inside her vagina aimed towards her belly button. This will not only hit her G-spot but the combination of your tongue and lips and the vibrating sensations will make for an incredibly intense orgasm.
Take control and dominate her in bed. You can blind fold her and pin her down in bed and slowly trail the vibrator from her breasts down her sides, barely grazing over her vagina, towards her thighs and back up towards her U-spot. The subtle vibrations will create anticipation and before you know it – she’ll be begging you to penetrate her. Now it’s up to you if you want to tease her by alternating between the vibrator and your own cock.
Using a Vibrator on Him
First of all – don’t surprise him by randomly pulling out a vibrator during sex. He may just freak out – especially if it’s your favourite 8 inch Rabbit !! Talk to your partner about it and start off with something simple like a Trojan or Durex vibrating cock ring that you can slip around his penis. Not only will the vibrations feel good at the base of his penis – but if he’s on top of you – it’ll also hit your clitoris as he thrusts which makes it a win-win for both of you !
Now that your man is no longer a sex-toy-virgin; I would recommend that you pick up a small bullet style vibrator or use a finger-vibe and the next time you’re riding him on top or giving him a blowjob; just reach behind and hold it against his perineum. He’ll enjoy the vibrations against the super sensitive area.
What words of wisdom can you share about vibrators ? When did you get your first vibrator ? Have you used a vibrator on your partner ?
Diva’s Tips
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Indulge in a sexy game of ‘find my pleasure spot’ : explore, discover, and learn about each other’s pleasure points with your new toy
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When using a combo toy, be sure to take it slow and don’t over-stimulate yourself. If you turn everything on too fast, you’ll have to stop, rest, and start over.
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And, as always, don’t forget the lube !
