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Position.  Position.  Position.   The acrobatics involved with the Kamasutra can sometimes distract you from experiencing the sensations building up to an amazing orgasm by making you focus on how to contort yourself into a not-so-comfy position !  If only it were that easy to re-enact all the Kamasutra positions !  Whilst I’m all game for the twisting and bending that goes with sex (it can be a better workout than at the gym) – sometimes you just need to know what moves will give you the best orgasm.  The key to mind-blowing, knee bucking orgasms is to keep it simple and focus on a position that works for you !  

 

Girl-On-Top

Based on past experience – and from what seems to work for the majority of women I know – the girl-on-top tends to be sure way of achieving an orgasm.  Ladies, you get to control the pace and depth of thrusting; and both you and your partner have easy access to your clitoris !  If you’re feeling brazen, do a 180 and pull a reverse-cowgirl on him (especially if he is an ass man)  Bonus Move :  instead of straddling him, put your feet flat between his legs – the tighter fit will make the sensations more intense !

 

Legs On Shoulders

Not as hard as it sounds and it works wonders for me so I have to share this.   The woman lies on her back, with the man kneeling towards her.  While he’s gliding in to you, hook your legs onto his shoulders.  Bonus move – tilt your body upwards if you really want to hit your G-spot deeper !  Be warned, stretch your legs out before this ‘cos you will be left sore otherwise.    Master the moves here.

 

For Those That Want MORE

GoodToKnow.co.uk has got a fab list of Top 40 Sex Positions with some great pictures, so you can get an idea of what you're supposed to be doing and a full explanation of how to tackle each sex position with a difficulty rating and fun rating so you know exactly what you're getting into - just click through to a more in depth article if you want more info on any position.

 

What’s your favourite sex position ? What is the most difficult one that you have tried ?  How many have you tried ?  How many positions do you go through in one night of passion ?

Diva’s Tips

• Don’t by shy – initiate a new position into your love life.  Your partner will appreciate it !
• Give yourself a hand and touch yourself during doggy-style or encourage your partner to do the same – you’ll be in ecstasy !
• Keep the lube handy !! Always a must when trying new positions.

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Orgasms.  *deep sigh*

 

In order to achieve a mind blowing orgasm, you have to train your body to be orgasmic; and for that you have to masturbate.  Seriously, if you don’t know what turns you on – how do you expect your partner to know what works for you ?  Instead of spending hours on trial and error (even though that can also be a lot of fun) – you can speed up the process by taking some initiative and letting your partner know that he / she is on the right track by ‘telling them’ what feels great (or for the shy ones, start with some pleasurable moaning)

 

Orgasms For Her

It’s harder for women to achieve an orgasm – so guys, please take your time with your partner.  Talk them through it – and for the love of God, if your partner is squirming, with shaky legs, and thrusting herself towards you – DO NOT STOP – STAY ON COURSE !   Women need A LOT of foreplay to get their minds and bodies relaxed.  And no, 10 minutes does not count as foreplay unless your face is buried in her vagina and you are lapping away at her clit and labia like a possessed demon who’s only goal is for her to cum all over your face.  Yes I’m talking about cunnilingus; going down on her; eating her out – you get the drift.

 

I’ve mentioned this before and I stand my ground on t his :  a woman can have a clitoral orgasm and a vaginal orgasm.   By focusing on giving her BOTH a clitoral and a vaginal orgasm you will be sending her to nirvana ‘cos that my friends is a G-Spot Orgasm !

 

Orgasms For Him

Ladies – did you know that the Male G-spot is found in the anus.  Yes that’s right – the anus.  Men love anal sex with you – BUT giving him a bit of anal stimulation will result in him having an explosive orgasm.   Note : some men will not want you to touch their anus BUT don’t let that stop you.  The next time you’re giving him a blow job, massage his testicles with one hand and run your fingers around his anus and perineum.  Keep some lube handy and apply some light pressure on  the outside of his anus; and whilst he’s busy being blown away by your mouth on his cock; allow your finger to gently slide in to his anus and massage his prostate.  He will be clenching up at this stage but keep at it.  Alternate your movements from a gentle sliding motion to a similar come hither motion (the same a guy uses to hit a woman’s G-spot) and your man will be in 7th heaven !

Guys, stop cringing as you read this – trust me, you will thank me for this one day.

 

When was your last big orgasm ? What moves make you weak in the knees and is a sure shot way of getting you to orgasm ?  Do you enjoy orgasms more when you're alone or when you are with a partner ? 

 

Diva’s Tips

• Ladies and Gents – practice your Kegel exercises every day !  Yup that’s right lads, you need to do it too !
• Gents, encourage your partner to take the woman-on-top position – the friction of her clit against your pubic bone will drive her to a frenzy
• Go with the flow – ride out that orgasm

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I swear to you that 31st July is National Orgasm Day.

Hallmark has gone all out with the cards when it comes to any and every possible kind of day – so I wouldn’t be surprised if there was a card for this totally orgasmic day.

I doubt any man or woman in their right mind would ‘refuse’ an orgasm if an offer was made (although it does depend on from who its coming from).  Besides shouldn’t every day be an Orgasm Day ? And let’s not forget Cake & Cunnilingus  and Steak & Blow Job Day ! Shouldn’t we be combing them all for the ultimate orgasm ?

I’m all for toe-curling, spine tingling, and euphoric orgasms ! Aren’t you ? Did you manage to give your man / lady an orgasm today ? If you haven’t done so already – can you leave this space and get working on it ! 

For Your Reading Pleasure

1. Get Your “O” on for National Orgasm Day
2. How Will You Celebrate National Orgasm Day ? by Nikki Leigh
3. National Orgasm Day by Andrew Reeves
4. In Search of the Ultimate Orgasm – Unigasms, Bigasms, & Trigasms by Dr Ava Cadell
5. Why You Should Get Savvy About National Orgasm Day by Dr Petra Boynton