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It seems like just a few months ago I was finally making progress with my blogging writers block and then suddenly it's 2017 !! 

At the stroke of midnight, as we toasted to champagne - my friends and I went about sharing our resolutions / ambitions for the year.  We determined that everyone is out to make more money and wants to travel more than they already.  Keeping those two points aside - what is it that we all want to achieve for the coming year. 

I came out with the below aims : Focus on expanding my business (in the bespoke travel sector) and to Start Writing Again !  Having said that I realized that somewhere in the back of my mind - that I have been drawn towards writing / blogging but something always comes up.  It could be that at times I'm not in the frame of mind to pen my thoughts; sometimes my thoughts are zooming around at over a 100 miles per hour and I can barely keep up with them .. and at other times I get this sense of 'heaviness' that ends up in an emotional block.  To be fair to myself, I have been working on my Company blog over the last year

Whilst recovering from my NYE party (it wound up at 7 a.m !) - it struck me that if I don't do at least 'try' to start writing - I will keep putting it off until there's no coming back to it (okay maybe that's harsh but I will try to not let it get to that point).

I have always found the Ultimate Blog Challenge inspiring and that's what got me into blogging more regularly.  At last count - I have 794 posts spread over  6 years (2014 & 2015 were not my best blogging years where I barely churned out 20 posts over the whole year).   My last attempt at the Challenge wasn't all there; but I'm going to give it another shot.  So here I am .. hoping that my fellow bloggers and blog readers will be there to encourage my foray back into the blogger world.

Happy 2017 Folks !! Hope you have a fantastic year ahead ! 

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Nothing quite beats the feeling of financial independence ! I started my first business at 21 and my second at 28.  I may not be able to afford to buy a house right now or even get a mortgage as I'm self-employed but just knowing that I earn enough to support myself, and indulge my passions (whether it be travel or learning something new or taking the 'summer' off work) is quite a feeling in itself.  

Do you remember what it felt like when you got your first pay cheque ? That euphoric feeling and sense of accomplishment ? How did it feel knowing that you are no longer dependent on your folks now that you're earning on your own ? 

Just remember that if you have the ability to work and earn right now - no matter what the income is - be grateful that you can do that because there are people out there who are unable to meet their basic requirements.  

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How aware are you of who YOU really are ? Are you aware of the positive & negative qualities that you possess and the qualities that people think you have ? How 'accepting' are you ? 

I came to the conclusion almost 2 decades ago when I was still in school that I'm different from my peers.  I didn't fall into the flock although I definitely had many 'flocks' of friends.  I'm an all-round person.  I can pretty much adapt to any situation I'm put in.  I'm very comfortable in my own skin.  I don't give a f*ck what people think about me (not in a bad way) but because unless you can tell me to my face - your opinion holds no value to me).

I have good days and bad days like everyone else.  I love my business and it drives me.  I work hard to party even harder.  There are days I wish my sweet tooth wasn't so bad and in turn that would result in me dropping at least 10 kgs but I do love dessert way too much to really give it up.  I love my friends fiercely.  

Do you accept and enjoy yourself for who you are ? 

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Doesn't seeing this image leave you with a warm fuzzy feeling ? We often take our parents for granted and oversee the sacrifices they have made to ensure that their children are comfortable.  

'Unconditional' - it appears to be the only apt word to describe the love a parent has for their child.  As my Mum puts it - she loves all her children even the ones who give her grief (clearly that's not me). 

I've taken to spending the mornings chatting with my Mum - getting to know what her plans are or what she thought of the last movie that she saw.  I realise now as I write this post that I 'spoke' to my Mum almost every day whilst I was travelling for the summer (and that's something I've never done in all my years of travelling)..  

I reckon she deserves a vacation ! Hopefully I can take her somewhere she wants to visit in 2016.  

Don't forget to drop your folks a quick hello by email / text / phone call or give them a hug if you happen to live at home or if you are in their neighbourhood. 

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With the Ultimate Blog Challenge just around the corner - I have more or less decided on a theme for my blog posts.  Have you heard or come across 'LastLemon.com' or perhaps you know them better for the cute cartoon 'Happiness Is ...' images that are floating around the internet ?  

I'm going to use illustrations from LastLemon.com to help me get my blog on as it's been over a year since I've written on a consistent basis (although in my defence there are quite a few partial drafts sitting in my dashboard).  

Ever since my Dad passed, it hit me hard in the face that life is unpredictable.  I've always known this but it 'sunk in'.  I've made it a point to try to enjoy / do more of anything & everything that makes 'Me' feel good.

I've started collecting illustrations that I feel an instant connect with and hopefully I'll get a few blog posts ready before the challenge actually starts ! So there you have it, my blog theme for the UBC is based around 'Things That Make Me Happy'

I hope you enjoy these posts and if you find yourself relating to any of them - I would love to hear from you in the comments.  If you're participating in the UBC then do let me know so that I can visit your blog as well.  Are you following a theme for your blog posts ? If you use Twitter then drop me a tweet on @dazediva 

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As you may be aware, the Ultimate Blog Challenge is back in October 2015 and yours truly is taking part in it to get out of my blogging rut ! 

My very first UBC was in Jan ’12 where I just blogged about random topics every day – and it did get hard towards the end of it.  Then I went ahead and with a general theme 'Think About It' wherein I wrote about quotes / images that connected to me.  I've also written about the 'A to Z of Blogging' and 'A to Z of Sex' for the Blogging from A to Z Challenge.  

Given the above actually helped me focus my blogging in a particular direction - I'm wondering whether or not to go with a theme for this years' challenge ? I'm more than likely to do it - but then it's the topic that I need to think about. 

Seeing that I'm in need of inspiration - it would mean a lot if you could suggest a theme or post topics that you would like to read about.  

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I've been thinking about the way I can edge myself back to the blogosphere and I reckon that the best way for me to do this would be to get myself in gear for the Ultimate Blog Challenge October 2015.   

  

There are few simple rules to follow if you are interested in taking up the Ultimate Blog Challenge:

1. Post every day for 31 days (yup - that's why it's a challenge).  Doesn't matter if you post twice a day and then skip a day – but you have to hit 31 posts over the entire month of October.
2. Each post must have a minimum of 100 words to count – so you can’t just put up a picture or a video and leave it there.  You need to actually express yourself in at least 100 words.
3. Once you've posted, then tweet your post with the tag #blogboost so other participants can find you, and come comment on your blog
4. Join the UBC Facebook page and find yourself amongst fellow bloggers; just add your link on the daily post comments section and visit other blogs 
5. Go to the #blogboost page and take the time to read other participants blogs (and don’t forget to comment!)
6. No adult blogs – so keep it PG
7. Have fun whilst you blog !

You can sign up over here : http://www.ultimateblogchallenge.com and enter your name and email address (this also allows the organizers of the challenge to send you across daily blog ideas and gets you listed on the site as someone who is participating)

Have you ever been a part of any Blog Challenges ?  Would you consider being a part of this 31 Day blog challenge ? I have really enjoyed the UBC in the past and discovered some fab blogs along the way.  Given my recent writers block - I hope to be able to just get on with it and hit my target of 31 posts for the month of October.   Now I just need to think of a theme !! 

If you do decide to take part in the challenge, please make sure you leave a comment and share your blog link so that I can stop by your blog .

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I need to break out of this blogging lull that I seem to have fallen into.  I feel like I’m driving myself crazy with the never ending thoughts in my head.  The only way that I reckon I may be able to express a fraction of what I've been thinking is by participating in the Ultimate Blog Challenge October 2013.   

I took part twice last year which did wonders for my blog and helped me push myself to blog and express myself; and this year I hope to be able to just get on with it and hit my target of 31 posts for the month of October. 

  

There are few simple rules to follow if you are interested in taking up the Ultimate Blog Challenge:

1. Post every day for 31 days (yup - that's why it's a challenge).  Doesn't matter if you post twice a day and then skip a day – but you have to hit 31 posts over the entire month of October.
2. Each post must have a minimum of 100 words to count – so you can’t just put up a picture or a video and leave it there.  You need to actually express yourself in at least 100 words.
3. Once you've posted, then tweet your post with the tag #blogboost so other participants can find you, and come comment on your blog
4. Go to the #blogboost page and take the time to read other participants blogs (and don’t forget to comment!)
5. No adult blogs – so keep it PG
6. Have fun whilst you blog !

You can sign up over here : http://www.ultimateblogchallenge.com and enter your name and email address (this also allows the organizers of the challenge to send you across daily blog ideas and gets you listed on the site as someone who is participating)

If you do decide to take part in the challenge, please make sure you leave a comment and share your blog link so that I can stop by your blog .

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Position.  Position.  Position.   The acrobatics involved with the Kamasutra can sometimes distract you from experiencing the sensations building up to an amazing orgasm by making you focus on how to contort yourself into a not-so-comfy position !  If only it were that easy to re-enact all the Kamasutra positions !  Whilst I’m all game for the twisting and bending that goes with sex (it can be a better workout than at the gym) – sometimes you just need to know what moves will give you the best orgasm.  The key to mind-blowing, knee bucking orgasms is to keep it simple and focus on a position that works for you !  

 

Girl-On-Top

Based on past experience – and from what seems to work for the majority of women I know – the girl-on-top tends to be sure way of achieving an orgasm.  Ladies, you get to control the pace and depth of thrusting; and both you and your partner have easy access to your clitoris !  If you’re feeling brazen, do a 180 and pull a reverse-cowgirl on him (especially if he is an ass man)  Bonus Move :  instead of straddling him, put your feet flat between his legs – the tighter fit will make the sensations more intense !

 

Legs On Shoulders

Not as hard as it sounds and it works wonders for me so I have to share this.   The woman lies on her back, with the man kneeling towards her.  While he’s gliding in to you, hook your legs onto his shoulders.  Bonus move – tilt your body upwards if you really want to hit your G-spot deeper !  Be warned, stretch your legs out before this ‘cos you will be left sore otherwise.    Master the moves here.

 

For Those That Want MORE

GoodToKnow.co.uk has got a fab list of Top 40 Sex Positions with some great pictures, so you can get an idea of what you're supposed to be doing and a full explanation of how to tackle each sex position with a difficulty rating and fun rating so you know exactly what you're getting into - just click through to a more in depth article if you want more info on any position.

 

What’s your favourite sex position ? What is the most difficult one that you have tried ?  How many have you tried ?  How many positions do you go through in one night of passion ?

Diva’s Tips

• Don’t by shy – initiate a new position into your love life.  Your partner will appreciate it !
• Give yourself a hand and touch yourself during doggy-style or encourage your partner to do the same – you’ll be in ecstasy !
• Keep the lube handy !! Always a must when trying new positions.

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“An orgasm a day keeps the doctor away” … The British National Health Service announced  in one of their brochures last year.  If you aren’t having sex every day to achieve the Big-O – the only other way is to masturbate.

 

Some people think of masturbation as taboo.   We’ve all done it at some point in time – during puberty, when we were horny teens, and as adults with (and without) our partners.  Men are very open about masturbating – and we all know they do it; women on the other hand are open and able to talk about sex more than men …. except when it comes to masturbation. 

 

Going Solo

Let me put it like this : every person is different, which means it takes a bit of trial and error with a new partner to figure out what works for both of you to achieve an orgasm.  And this is where masturbation comes in.  Your body is your temple and you are the master of your temple.  If you know what makes your body tick and what really stimulates you – you can in turn share that with your partner to ensure that you hit the Big O each and every time.

 

Ladies, if you haven’t masturbated as yet or are weary about admitting that you enjoy some solo action – stop thinking like that !!  If you don’t own a mini-vibrator (those things are smaller than a lipstick and super discreet) just go out there and get one !  Most of my girlfriends own a mini-vibrator or a ‘clit-kit’. I received one for Christmas a few years ago and trust me, no complains there ! Put aside some time for an evening of solo pleasure; dim the lights, get the scented candles out and just explore your own body.  Experiment and you'll be surprised by the sexy sensations you can provoke

Double The Pleasure

Now that you’ve mastered the art of giving yourself a solo orgasm why not involve your partner ?  Seriously which hot-blooded man will say ‘sorry hunny, I don’t want you to pleasure yourself’ ?  Exactly !  It’s no surprise that men find it extremely erotic to watch their partner masturbate – either during foreplay and / or during intercourse.  Think of masturbation as foreplay and you’re on to a winner here.

Guys, a bit of subtle domination may result in a visual feast for you ! Next time you’re with your partner – why not tell her that you want her to touch her ‘hot spots’ and you’ll return the favour with your lips and tongue.  If you think she won’t respond to a direct verbal communication - you can always guide her hand down to her clit and rest yours over hers whilst you are busy exploring the rest of her – and tell her you want her to show you how she wants to be touched.  Ladies take a bit of initiative and give yourself a bit of a helping hand while your man is going about his business of making you writhe away under him ! Seriously he’s going Love IT !

 

So what are your thoughts about masturbation ? Do you masturbate ? How often ? Ladies – do you consider it taboo ? Do you own a vibrator ? If you don’t – just go out there and get yourself one .. it’ll be fun !

 

Diva’s Tips

• Ladies if you are going solo – set the mood, turn your phone off, lie back and let your fingers explore !
• Guys – all I have to say to you is – always encourage your partner to show you exactly how she wants to be touched … you’ll be in for a treat !
• Don’t forget to use some lube to enhance the pleasure !

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If you don’t already have a flavoured lube tucked away in your bedside drawer, GO OUT AND GET ONE NOW ! Seriously, there’s nothing wrong with adding a bit of lube to your romping sessions.  It can be a lot of fun and add some spice to foreplay and enhance your sex life.  If you have never lubed up, you should try it!

 

Face The Facts

No matter how horny and wet a woman gets; it’s never going to be ‘as wet as with lube’.   Marathon sex sessions can cause a woman to dry out and results in sex being very uncomfortable for both partners.  The friction from a mans’ cock against a not-so-lubricated vagina can cause some chaffing for the man and vaginal tears for the woman.  This is why lube was invented (ok so I don’t know the real reason but this has to be one of the reasons!)  The extra lubrication boosts the sensations down under for a woman and allows men to thrust away for a longer time without causing women any discomfort.  It also allows both partners to maintain a steady rhythm (which what most women need to climax) AND allows for some new positions thanks to the added lubrication.

 

Know Your Lubes

There are different types of lubes.  Water-based lubes feel more natural and are less gooey and sticky; whilst silicone ones are longer lasting and water resistance – which means they are great for sex in shower.  If you are ‘literally’ looking to heat things up – then I would recommend my personal favourite, the Durex Play Warming lubes which warms up the skin in addition to the sexy slippery sensations !   A friend recommend Durex Quiver which is essentially ‘freezable lube cubes’ – free the cubes, and then use as you wish !  I haven’t used this before but am adding it to my list of things to try ! 

 

Durex also has a fab collection of various flavoured lubricants (strawberry, pina colada, chocolate) which are great when paired with oral sex.  Fancy a yummy 69 ?  Add a few drop of favourite flavoured lube on each other beforehand and enjoy your dessert !!  Gentleman, repeat after me 'The use of lube is essential for anal sex’.  Regardless of what type of lube you pick, just be sure to keep it nearby so you don't have to stop and hunt for it.

 

According to sex expert Dr Laura Berman, there are some rules that we should all remember.  “If you are using a sex toy made out of silicone, do not use a silicone-based lubricant. When using condoms, always use a water-based lubricant to prevent the condom from breaking. Avoid oil-based lubricants, as well as products like baby oil and Vaseline."

 

Have you lubed up as yet ? What lube would you recommend trying out ? Any tips that you care to share ?

 

Diva’s Tips:

• Spread a warming lube on your mans’ balls, lightly massage them while giving him a blow job. 
• Add a drop or two inside the condom – the added sensation will feel AMAZING for him !
• Ladies, leave a bottle of lube out for your man to find when he gets home with a note that says, "Find me ... and bring this"
• Don’t lube the shaft of the penis up before putting a condom on.  You don’t want to risk the condom slipping off !!

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Admit it – you thought I might go with Kamasutra or Kinky for this post didn’t you ?

 

Kisses.  Kissing.  I love to kiss.  A kiss can leave you weak in the knees.  A kiss can make you want to melt into your partners arms.  Kissing is the basic building block of intimacy.  Kissing is one of the first ways we connect to someone sexually (other than being physically attracted to them).  Kissing releases endorphins, dopamine, serotonin, adrenaline and oxytocin; also known as the love (or bonding) hormone in our bodies.  No wonder kissing makes you feel so connected to the person.   There’s something about a passionate kiss that cannot be articulated by words or replicated by sex.  

 

Kissing is the kind of foreplay that one should never ever skip out on !  I’m a big fan of French Kissing – add a bit of nibbles on the lower lips; running my tongue across the roof of my partners mouth (trust me, this is a major turn on – try it on yourself, the roof of your mouth is packed with nerve endings that will feel like you are having mini explosions in your mouth); and then alternating between soft lip kiss and some tongue action.   Kissing shouldn’t be restricted to just on the mouth.  I love being kissed on my neck and anywhere on my back ! It gives me tingles and makes my toes curl up !  You know you’re doing a good job at kissing when you can feel your partners’ hard-on pressed up against you or when you feel the dampness on her panties !

 

Have you ever tried to give someone an Eskimo or Butterfly Kiss ?  An Eskimo kiss is when you rub your noses back and forth against each other.  Seriously, the real life Eskimos do this !  If you haven’t tried a Butterfly kiss, all you have to do is get close to them so the tips of your eyelashes are touching theirs (or touching their cheeks) and then then blink very fast so your eyelashes flutter together like butterfly wings.  What about an Australian kiss ?  Confused ? It’s a French Kiss but down-under i.e. cunnilingus ! (see you learn something new all the time)

What’s the best and / or worst kiss you have had ?  I met this amazing young man in London and  we spent almost 3 hours just kissing on a bench at 2 a.m. It was hot, erotic, sexy :  our eyes closed, heads tilted against each other, bodies pressed together, hands roving all over each other; and left us both craving for each others’ mouths. We couldn’t keep our lips off each other. We both ended up with aching, slightly swollen lips the next day. That’s my favourite type of kiss. Full of passion and desire.

 

When was the last time you kissed like it was your first time ? Do you remember your first kiss ?  Any tips on how to make your partner swoon from a kiss ?

 

Diva’s Tips :

• Kiss Slowly.  Kiss Deeply.  Kiss Passionately. 
• Don’t forget to kiss your partner whilst you’re having sex.  It’s down right intimate !!
• Take some initiative and kiss your partner when (and where) they least expect it ! It’ll keep the sparks going
• Do NOT slobber all over your partners face !! Too much salvia is NOT cool !

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‘I want you. Now.’

‘How would you like to feel my lips on your cock?’

‘Wear your sexiest dress and skip the panties tonight’

 

These are some some of the phrases that convey the message ‘I want to have sex with you’ and are an instant turn-on for men and women. Especially when it’s thrown in there when the other person least expects it – it can turn out to be a bit of an erotic surprise for them ! The phrases are also quite blunt, which taps into racy fantasies that most men & women have about raw, spontaneous, animalistic sex.

 

There was a time when men almost always initiated sex. Today that’s not the case any more. Women are getting more comfortable with their sexuality and are taking the reins (literally).  For all the shy women out there, just remember that men want to be pursued by their partners just as much as women do.  I’ve been known to initiate sex in my past relationships.  It’s not always as easy as I’d like it to be. Sometimes it’s a bit nerve wrecking but hell that’s what the fun is about right. Thankfully my advances have never been rejected because that would be a slight blow to my ego.   BUT having said that, there’s nothing wrong if your partner doesn’t want to have sex.  Don't take it personally.  There are many reasons your partner isn't in the mood that have absolutely nothing to do with you.  Maybe they’ve had a hard day at work; family pressure; she might be getting her period and feeling bloated.  See none of these have anything to do with you – so stop worrying.

 

Here’s the thing about initiation and taking the initiative – you have to try it to know what tickles your partners fancy and makes them horny.  Nothing screams ‘take me off’ like new lingerie. So ladies, why not wait for your man in a new teddy and watch his pupils dilate and cock salute you. Gents, have you got your partner any lingerie before ? What about sex toys ? I took an ex to a Sex-Expo in London and he encouraged me to buy a vibrator which soon became a favourite in the bedroom.

 

Are you an initiator ? Do you wish your partner would initiate more ? Have you ever been shot down for initiating sex ?

Diva’s Tips :

• If you’re too shy to vocalize your thoughts in front of your partner; just send them a slightly naughty text message
• If your partner tends to initiate sex; take the reigns and tell them what you want to have done to you ! Trust me, your partner will be glad to oblige
• Initiation could be as simple as leaving some cheeky love coupons for your partner to find (one of my personal favourites)

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Domination.  We’ve all heard about this.  What comes to your mind when you think of domination ?  Do you think of leather and whips and blindfolds ? Do you imagine your partner in knee high stiletto boots telling you in no uncertain terms what she wants you to do to her else face the wrath of her whip ?  Do you think of being tied up against the bed poles (or the table or wherever) and teased until you’re begging to just cum ?

 

Domination is different for everyone.   Some are pros and hard-core while some of us are still quite vanilla about it.  I’ve experimented with blindfolds, handcuffs, satin scarves to tie / restrain my partner (and having been restrained myself) but I’ve never really indulged in the really painful kind of domination that one tends to imagine.  Things like spanking, being whipped with leather, nipple and pussy clamps – that’s just not me.   I rather have my hair pulled back; be ravaged by my partners mouth during cunnilingus with a blindfold on. Personally, its a turn on to see the dominant side of my partner come out when I least expect it. 

 

If you’ve never given domination a try – you can start off with something easy.  Send your partner an email or a text telling him / her along the lines of : ‘When I see you tonight, it’s simple – I tell you what to do, and you answer ‘Yes Sir’ / ‘Yes Ma’am’ … or even a straight forward ‘You are going to get the best blowjob the minute you walk in through the door’ ..  that simple message conveys power, control and a naughty preview to what will happen later that night.  If you want to ‘be dominated’ then let your partner know that ‘your wish is my command’ or ‘tonight, I’m yours to do as you wish with’ .. simple and effective words that’s going to leave your partner hot and horny for you !

 

What’s your take on domination ? Do you enjoy being dominated by your partner or do you prefer to dominate and take control of your sexual encounter ? What are the boundaries that you have drawn ?  What works and doesn’t work for you ?

 

Diva’s Tips:

• If you’re just starting out with domination, remember to keep a ‘safe word’ so you both know when to draw a line
• Communicate with your partner before hand about your likes and dislikes
• Have Fun and Don’t over-do it !!

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Couldn’t someone have come up with an easier word for ‘eating pussy’ than Cunnilingus ??

 

I don’t know know any man that doesn’t want to go down on a woman.  I have heard of some who have never ever tried and don’t want to either; but think it’s their God given right to receive a blowjob.  Now that attitude just pisses me off.  Seriously !! If you want to get a blowjob, then you have to reciprocate and eat your woman !

 

Ladies, let me hear you say ‘YES’ if you enjoy have a man (or a woman) go down on you.  I’m all for it and I would be disappointed if I met a man who wouldn’t go down on me.  Any man that knows how to work his tongue is a keeper !

 

Gentlemen, are you in favour of lapping away at your woman until her legs quiver against your face ? Or are you the type who won’t entertain the idea ? What are your thoughts on that ?  I read something last year called ‘Vagina Dinner’ by Kyle Mew and I think everyone should have a quick read of it.

 

Every woman is different and one should always try a few variations when it comes to sucking and licking a woman’s vagina and clit.  If you find your partner thrusting herself into your mouth; Don’t Stop whatever you are doing !!  A woman can have multiple orgasms with oral sex – so make sure you follow-up with some more lip action if you want to rock her world !  Trust me, you could end up with a sore tongue but if you keep at it and make her explode (think female ejaculation) – you will reap the benefits !

Diva’s Tips :

• Guys, take the initiative (and earn brownie points) by surprising your partner with an early morning / afternoon / evening session focused on just her pleasure .. and by that I mean, use your tongue, your mouth until she begs you to stop !! And even then, don’t stop. 
• Ladies, not that I really need to say this, but always keep the sacred garden well mowed (or landscaped if you prefer) and watered regularly

 

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Ok so I’m sure I could have come up with any other ‘A’ related word but Anal Sex is really the first that comes to mind ! 

 

If you’ve never had anal sex before – it can seem a bit daunting and overwhelming.  But honestly, it’s not so bad (nor as painful) as some may make it out to seem.  The key to enjoying anal sex is to take it slow, use loads and loads of lube and that both of you have to be very turned on !!  If it’s your very first time, let your man get you warmed up with foreplay, then slowly  tease and massage the outer rim of the opening with his finger (and tongue) and once you’re ready (and you’ll know when you are), have him slip his finger in, only as far as is comfortable.  I cannot stress enough that you need to be relaxed and use plenty of lubricant !

 

Now that you’re ass has been deflowered; when you’re ready for the next level - the most comfortable position would be doing the deed in the missionary position; with your legs raised.  Trust me, it doesn’t hurt that way !

 

Guys love anal – they all want to do it to you even if they don’t ask you for it.  Ladies, if you’ve been weary of trying this – why not consider surprising him over a special occasion ? Gentleman, never force or pressurize your partner into something.  Just think about how you would feel if someone was trying to insert something into your butt !  Go easy on your partner and focus on the foreplay – use your fingers, your mouth and your tongue (not just on her clit and vagina but on her ass too) and if you’re doing it right – you’ll see her arching towards you and that’s your green signal right there !

 

I’ve always maintained the ‘if you can do it to me, I can do it to you’ rule in the bedroom (and outside).  And I have yet to meet a guy who doesn’t enjoy the favour being reciprocated on him !!  Ladies, work your tongue down his perineum to his ass while you are wanking him off and he’s gonna be in 7th heaven !

 

What has your experience with the ‘A-word’ been ? Good ? Bad ? Never want to do it again ? For the pros out there – any tips to make the experience more pleasurable ? Do share any other ‘A’ words related to sex in the comments.

 

Diva’s Tips:

• Don’t just assume your partner is okay with this; TALK about it !
• Lube, lube and more lube !
• Go slow, it’s not a race

#atozchallenge 26 Day Blog Challenge a to z challenge a to z of sex April A to Z Challenge blog challenge blog content ideas blogging challenge blogging ideas

The A to Z Blogging Challenge kicks off on the 1st of April ‘13.  Unfortunately due to my schedule, I was unable to register as a participant as I missed the deadline … but that’s not going to stop me. 

The theme is a bit racy .. and it’s going to be fun .. ‘A to Z of Sex’ !! 

I’ve been thinking about writing about a particular theme ever since I completed the challenge last year. In hindsight I should have just started writing the posts back then but that didn’t quite happen.

If you are participating in the challenge, have you decided on a theme ? What is it ?  If you aren’t participating, what are some of the topics you would like to read about based on my current theme ?

 

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