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WW #51 : Don’t Just Leave Me Hanging
I’m pretty sure no guy (or girl) would appreciate that!! And funnily enough I’ve actually noticed that a lot out here in Bombay. People make moves on another, and then blow between hot and cold .. to a point it makes you wonder exert so much energy if you aren’t going to follow through on your original plan !
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My mate AM posted this link on FaceBook and I had to share it with you all. I’ve never heard this track before today; and I really liked it.
As I play this track right now, I can’t help but think of the cheeky conversation I had with the Roadside Romeo just a little bit ago. I haven’t really heard from him since I confessed my crush; so it’s good to know that the chemistry is still there.
Imagine a Heart. A Heart with an arrow going through it. Not a horrible bloody arrow but a nice arrow. How do you feel when you see that image ? What is that image trying to evoke from us ?
I sat down a few minutes ago and sort of got lost in a ramble of thoughts when this image flickered in my minds’ eye and just remained there.
Growing up – I remember seeing hearts drawn across note books in school; on dirty car windows where someone would smear that across; as graffiti on some walls; even I have drawn that image a few times … There was an unsaid acceptance that the hearts represented people’s feelings of love – you know – like if they didn’t know how to express themselves – a heart just says it all … well something like that anyway …
The heart being a love interest and the arrow is Cupid’s arrow signifying that one has found love in that heart. It is believed that Cupid can induce love with a single shot from his arrow. Hence the saying ‘hit by Cupid’
Whilst laying on my bed, focusing on this image – I thought … how could that possibly represent something ‘nice’ … look at it really …
An arrow … cutting into your heart …. that just sounds painful ! I reckon that arrow and heart are an accurate representation of how someone would feel after a break-up with a loved one …. the sheer pain of it all could be pretty excruciating !
This is what I’m feeling and thinking of when I think of that image … There’s an arrow lodged into your heart … it’s just pierced right through you and it’s stuck there … and the only way to get it out is to pull it out … when you do, that’s when the blood spills out … all over you … and that’s how your heart breaks … that’s how heart ache came about I suppose … It makes sense doesn’t it ?
In today’s society – we are all looking for love … and we’d be liars if we claimed that we are not. Have you not dreamed of finding the one to call your other half ? (aaaaaaah now I know why they make those half heart pendants hehe) .. I suppose I have dreamed about you
Nonetheless, over the years, we would have learned that to love, could also mean to lose love .. and hence we ought to be prepared to get hurt if we are going to love someone … and be prepared to love again …
However when you look at that heart image in front of you – it doesn’t appear to give off any negative sort of vibe .. nor does it really make you think that deeply into something which is meant to be a happy and cheerful image !
I just Googled ‘heart with arrow’ and all the pictures that came off – seemed to come off quite nicely.
Some images were really ‘cute’ and ‘feminine’ … others were stronger, with ribbons, had more shadows playing on them … or you get a romantic heart drawn out in sand on the beach …. It’s nice to look at right ?
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But really … look at it … how can you feel nice when you have a damn arrow going through your heart ???
I have nothing against the whole Cupid hitting you with love arrows – but realistically … doesn’t make a whole lot of sense does it .. or maybe I’ve just had a really long day ! Would love to know your thoughts on this …
I’m not talking about Chemistry in the science lab – but more along of the lines of the chemistry between two people. I got thinking about this the other day after reading another fab post on Simone’s blog.
Over the years and depending on your dating history – you would have come to realise that there is something about a prospective partner that just ‘clicks’ for you. I’ve already talked about the ‘type of person’ we tend to be attracted to – and moving further into the subject – once we’ve covered the initial attraction stage - we head over to stage 2 : is there any chemistry between the two individuals ?
For me, over the years – most of my relationships have been based on an initial combination of physical and mental chemistry. Once I realise I am attracted to somebody – purely on a physical attributes, I have to figure out whether I ‘click’ with this person on a mental level as well.
I have gone into relationships where initially both parties felt the immediate physical chemistry – it was that rush of being with the ‘best looking’ guy. Some of those relationships obviously didn’t pan out because the mental chemistry wasn’t there. Then there were relationships where both physical and mental chemistry stood strong but circumstances resulted in an end to the relationship.
In my late teen years and at university – it was important for me to be physically attracted to somebody to start dating them – I would let the mental chemistry develop. These relationships would tend to last only a few months. It also so happened that as people – the guy and myself – barely knew each other. The physical attraction had to be there in the first 2-3 interactions – otherwise it wasn’t going to work out.
From about 6 years ago – my perspective on dating changed – I realised that I wanted more out of a relationship. So, even though the initial attraction factor was the physical attribute and physical chemistry – if I didn’t find that in the first few meetings that there was ALSO a mental connection – I didn’t pursue the matter further.
Around 4 years ago – I met a man online through a social networking medium. We were both attracted to each other’s photographs – and we got in touch via email. This communication went on for about a month. The mental connection was there and the fact that we both appealed to each other physically (from a photographic perspective) was also good. From emails, we moved on to SMS and phone calls – and decided to meet up about 2 months later. We ended up dating for 1.5 year. Unfortunately things didn’t work out. Not because we weren’t physically and mentally compatible but due to family interference. That really sucked.
So now, I’m trying to figure out what combination or percentage of physical and mental compatibility and chemistry I need with a partner for it to actually ‘work out’. Instead of just looking at a guy from a the initial physical attraction; I’ll be taking the mental 
That doesn’t mean I would want to just settle with someone who I am mentally connected with and have no physical chemistry …. However there will be a time frame – or a window period if you want to call it – that it should develop in (at least I’m being fair right)… If it doesn’t come about in a few weeks – then I wouldn’t be able to pursue the relationship.
Damn it … can’t I have it all ??
What’s your take on chemistry between two people ? Is it important ? Does chemistry develop along the way ? Is it better to be compatible or to have chemistry ?
Here are some interesting articles to check out:
