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Say what ? A Hallmark Holiday ? You must be wondering what drug I’m currently on … The day that couples and lovers gush over each other and shower one another with gifts, chocolates and whatever else that is deemed romantic.

p.s if you haven’t guessed – it’s Valentine’s Day  .. but really and truly it’s just another day which has been overly commercialized and I’m not trying to be cynical here .. when you get down to thinking about it – it is in fact a commercial day.

Earlier today I read a post titled  ‘Cupid’s Price Tag’ and I could completely relate to it – it’s as if the author read my mind and wrote down my thoughts.  The way the way prices rise during the week of Feb 14th is unbelievable – and I’ve noticed this across countries over the past 10 years..  Restaurants double (if not triple their rates) for a 3 course meal; flights get more expensive; the same gift sets you see available tend to go up in price during Valentines .. it’s really a very commercial day.

I’m a spontaneous person and I don’t need a specific date in the calendar to tell me when I should show and exaggerate my affections to someone – when really – I could do it any time, any day of the year.  Shouldn’t we be able to do that without being pressurized into making this one day so ‘perfect’ ?

What are your thoughts about this ? Do you think V-day has become a commercial day ? Do you feel any sort of pressure to make the day somehow stand out for your partner if you are in a relationship ? Or are you the type that doesn’t really feel the need to celebrate Valentines day ? I’d really love to hear your thoughts on this. 

Further Reading:

1. Cupid’s Price Tag by Emily Anderson of The Thrifty Social Worker
2. Putting a Price Tag on Love
3. Singles seek something special on Valentine's Day
4. What the Average Man Spends on Valentine’s Day by Andrew Daniels for Men's Health News
5. Bottom Line - Stores play with our hearts, wallets on Valentine's Day by Marisa Taylor

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Yes it’s that time of the year again, when every company and brand is sending out love struck messages, and completely commercializing one day out of 365 days of the year so that we, the people, find a way to show our love and affection for one another.

I’m not trying to sound like a hater – although my first paragraph might say otherwise.  I like the idea of Valentines day.  In fact it’s quite fun – personally and professionally (what else can you expect for an events planner ?)After all which girl (or guy) doesn’t want to be showered with affection by their special someone ?

I just feel that isn’t that something that should (and can) be done anytime, all the time, even randomly so and not just on one specific day ? (besides isn’t that what birthdays, and anniversaries are for?) …  In fact I reckon the more random the displays of affection – the more ‘real’ it comes across and the person on the receiving end would appreciate it that so much more than just on V-day …  

I honestly think that if you want to show someone, anyone (mother, father, relative, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife) any sort of affection or showcase of ‘love’ – it’s not bound to a specific day.  What do you think ? Or am I just being very cynical ?

p.s have I told you lately that I love you

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… and we’re talking REALLY lucky ;)

I’ve never had anything against Valentines Day … I’ve always enjoyed it.  Sometimes I’ve been single and others times as a part of a couple.  Regardless of my relationship status – it’s always been something interesting going on over V-Day.  Here’s what I’ve been up to in Mumbai the past V-Days’ as a sassy single chica ..

2007 … One of my extended cousins got engaged.  There were quite a bit of family from all over the globe attending – put a group of Punjabis in a room with music and alcohol .. and voila the recipe for some wild dancing.

2008 … I don’t have any visual proof as I normally would about what happened; but couldn’t have been as exciting as the Shaken Not Stirred party I attended :) I ended up being the first female to dive into the pool and won a weekend stay at the Raheja Exotica Resort.  I managed to find a You Tube video of the party.  Check out the property ! Isn’t it gorgeous :) and yes that’s the pool I dove into.

2009 … I started V-Day eve busy with wedding preparations for another one of my cousins’.  After the reception was over; I crossed over a distance of barely 10 kms (but think of it as 1.5 hour worth of traffic) so as to wish a dear friend Happy Birthday before the stroke of midnight.

2010 … A week or so prior to Valentines, I got totally inspired to write a few posts all thanks to Nandoism’s Valentines Erotica Submission post .. If I say so myself, damn I was on a roll and how ! I then went on to work up the nerve to take part in the content held by Empire Labs; only to realize I belonged to the wrong country.  Around this time I started focusing on the calling of my blogger voice; and eventually got to submitting a small piece of erotica to the competition. 

On V-Day itself – I landed up going to the Elle Derby that took place in Mumbai which was pretty cool :) Lots of free alcohol; great vibes with a good group of friends (and the guys were quite easy on the eye too).  After winning the only bet I placed on the races - I got approached by this married acquaintance who asked me where my boyfriend was …. Great way to remind me that I do not have a boyfriend .. but anyway – the conversation went as follows …

Married Acquaintance: So where’s’ your boyfriend today ?

Dazediva : What boyfriend ? I don’t have one .. haven’t had one in a while now

MA: No ! How’s that possible ? Surely you’re here with a date – it’s Valentines !

DD: I don’t know – I ask myself the same thing. And nope – I’m here on my own chilling with a few friends. No Valentines for me =(

MA: That’s not right ! Give me 4.5 minutes.  (and literally starts running away from me)

DD: 4.5 minutes ? Errm okay then. I’ll see you in a bit then …

……… 5 minutes later

MA : Sorry it took me 30 seconds longer than I said I would be … give me your hand

DD : Errrm okaaay … but what’s the deal ?

MA : …. Here you go …

How sweet is that ???? I got my ONLY V-day card at the races (I’ll ignore the fact that the person who gave me the card is unavailable but still … I got a hand made card !!!!)  The cute part was that the sheet of paper that MA used had ‘ass emoticons’ on it which were quite hilarious !

To top that off – the following morning – I came to know that I had WON the Nandoism and Empire Labs competition !!! How cool is that !!!  I’ll be receiving a big box of goodies from the lovely peeps over at Empire Labs … but since they’re going to be shipping to India … and technically ‘toys’ aren’t really allowed … I’ll be receiving a box of sample molding kits hahahha

It really has been a pretty perfect Valentines for me … looks like I am going to be one happy puppy for the rest of the year !!!

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I think this picture says it all … Lots of love and warm wishes going out to all of you out in Bloggersville and in cyber space !

Doesn’t matter if you are single, or in a relationship .. Just remember that if you want others to love you; then you must learn to love yourself first.

Hope you have a great Valentines =)

xoxoxo

p.s. don’t forget to check out CardboardLove – there are some great love notes on there :)